Last week, we discussed the first two steps of the Five Bes of Family Unity: Be unified with Jesus and Be unified in the bedroom. But we can’t have five unless we discuss the other three.
If you’ve been struggling in your marriage and home life, the Five Bes of Family Unity will help get your family on the right track.
Be unified at the bank.
It’s no secret that money has been the root of all kinds of family drama. It’s among the top subjects couples argue about. I’m sure you have had a heated discussion about those greenbacks a time or two.
It’s no surprise since the scriptures teach us that “The love of money is the root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.” (1 Timothy 6:10)
I’m sure you’ve heard the stories of marriages that split, and family members disowned over money. I’ve even read stories of people who murdered a family member all because of money.
Do you know why?
Because people often let money be their master instead of God. Jesus said, “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.” (Matthew 6:24)
If you want unity in your home and marriage, you must have a unified vision for your money. If you don’t master it, it will master you.
The secret is to force your money to have a godly kingdom purpose. Make it have an eternal impact instead of a selfish one. If you do, it will take a lot of the selfishness out of your life and family.
You might say, “But it’s my money. I worked hard for it.” And, to a certain extent, you would be correct. But you’re forgetting or deliberately ignoring one key factor about your money– where it comes from.
When it comes to money, you need to constantly “remember the Lord your God, for it is he who gives you the ability to produce wealth.” (Deuteronomy 8:18)
That means every red cent you have, every paycheck, and every retirement account comes from God. God gives you the ability to put food on your table, gas in your car, and take your family on vacation.
The bottom line is this: he has given you everything. You would have nothing if it weren’t for him. Since that is true, you must guard against money having a selfish purpose in your home.
The Bible says to “Command those who are rich in this present world not to be arrogant nor to put their hope in wealth, which is so uncertain, but to put their hope in God, who richly provides us with everything for our enjoyment. Command them to do good, to be rich in good deeds, and to be generous and willing to share.” (1 Timothy 6:17-18)
A command is not an option. It is the duty and responsibility of every Christian to obey it. If you do, you will have more unity in your home than ever before.
Questions to Consider:
- How can you make your money have a godly kingdom purpose?
- What steps can you take to make a godly plan for your money with your spouse?